Everyone is starting off the year with their hair goals etc. but I’ll get to that later. I want to talk to a setback I experienced during my move.
Y’all know I was experiencing a rough patch with my hair in the latter part of 2010. My hair was inexplicably breaking and really frustrating the heck out of me. After medical consultations that came up empty except for low iron levels, my stylist suggested I give my hair a break and weave it. Sounded logical enough. The break from manipulation should have prevented some of the breakage that was occurring and I felt that with the move and everything else going on it would relieve me of some of the pressure involved in making my hair look presentable everyday.
On October 29th I forked over way too much money and had a full head weave attached to my head. I’m usually open to most hair adventures, but weaves were never really one of them. I however embraced the idea in the hopes that it would help my hair rebound.
In the days prior to the weave I did a protein treatment. On the day of the weave, my stylist washed and blow dried my hair; parted my hair in four sections and braided each section into a spiral. A net was then sewn over the braids. It was explained to me that the net would prevent the weave from pulling on my hair and hence further protect my hair when the new growth grew out.
All was going well until she mentioned very matter-of-factually that I should only wash my hair every 2 weeks THE MOST!!!! HUH?? Nope can’t work! I stared at her in disbelief, then politely told her that was not going to work! At that point I knew this “Weave adventure” was now a misadventure. I like my hair to be clean, and I can at times have a particularly itchy scalp. I need to be able to wash my hair on a regular basis – at least once a week!
My second clue to the misadventure was the day after the weave was put in. My scalp was itching like crazy! The tension of the braids and the itching were absolutely driving me crazy! I felt like I would just rip everything off of my head. But that I did not do. I experienced a classic case of “I-paid-so-much-money-for-this-hair-I-must-get-my-money’s-worth-itis!” I suffered through the itching for another few days and then said to hell with it and washed my hair.
That’s when I realised that the net that was sewn onto the braids, prevented me from really shampooing my scalp! Alas I would never be able to achieve the cleanness I so enjoy. After the first shampoo the itching subsided a bit, but regularly I was still plagued with familiar weave behaviours! – Tapping the itchy spots (instead of scratching) and “scratching” with a rat tail comb lol. Y’all weave wearers know exactly what I’m talking about!
It wasn’t all bad however. I enjoyed the freedom of not having to do much to my hair – the so called get-up-and-go look. Not having to worry about styling my hair the night prior, no detangling every morning etc. I just woke up, combed with a wide toothed comb and that was it. I didn’t really have to do much with the weave it self. It kept it’s shape for most of the week until wash day when I would wash, condition and flat iron it.
Sadly I did not enjoy my weave as much as I should have, I took it out in about 5 weeks and that’s only because I couldn’t get to the salon during the 4th week. At the end of the day, the discomfort from the tightness, the itching and the inconvenience of not having a clean scalp overpowered the “get-up-and-go” conveniences.
The third and final clue to this misadventure came after the weave was removed. I experienced so much breakage that I had to have my hair cut not trimmed. It was the first time I sat in a salon chair and struggled to hold back tears. I’ve never cried because of my hair…never! I’ve always seen hair as something that would grow back…despite the gravity of the situation. For whatever reason though, that day the weave was removed was the first time I came close to crying because of the state of my hair.
I know now that weaves are NOT for me. I strongly believe that I had an allergic reaction to the hair which resulted in the constant sometimes violent itching. So no more weaves, I need something that is less of a commitment – something that I can remove at the end of the day – a wig perhaps; braids are ok, but no more weaves, at least not when my memory is still intact.
Do you wear weaves? Have you ever experienced a setback because of them? Let us know your experiences.