Weave Setback

Weave Setback

Everyone is starting off the year with their hair goals etc. but I’ll get to that later.  I want to talk to a setback I experienced during my move.

Y’all know I was experiencing a rough patch with my hair in the latter part of 2010.  My hair was inexplicably breaking and really frustrating the heck out of me.  After medical consultations that came up empty except for low iron levels, my stylist suggested I give my hair a break and weave it.  Sounded logical enough.  The break from manipulation should have prevented some of the breakage that was occurring and I felt that with the move and everything else going on it would relieve me of some of the pressure involved in making my hair look presentable everyday.

On October 29th I forked over way too much money and had a full head weave attached to my head.  I’m usually open to most hair adventures, but weaves were never really one of them.  I however embraced the idea in the hopes that it would help my hair rebound.

In the days prior to the weave I did a protein treatment.  On the day of the weave, my stylist washed and blow dried my hair; parted my hair in four sections and braided each section into a spiral.  A net was then sewn over the braids.  It was explained to me that the net would prevent the weave from pulling on my hair and hence further protect my hair when the new growth grew out.

All was going well until she mentioned very matter-of-factually that I should only wash my hair every 2 weeks THE MOST!!!!  HUH?? Nope can’t work!  I stared at her in disbelief, then politely told her that was not going to work!  At that point I knew this “Weave adventure” was now a misadventure.   I like my hair to be clean, and I can at times have a particularly itchy scalp.  I need to be able to wash my hair on a regular basis – at least once a week!

My second clue to the misadventure was the day after the weave was put in.  My scalp was itching like crazy!  The tension of the braids and the itching were absolutely driving me crazy!  I felt like I would just rip everything off of my head.  But that I did not do.  I experienced a classic case of  “I-paid-so-much-money-for-this-hair-I-must-get-my-money’s-worth-itis!”  I suffered through the itching for another few days and then said to hell with it and washed my hair.

That’s when I realised that the net that was sewn onto the braids, prevented me from really shampooing my scalp!  Alas I would never be able to achieve the cleanness I so enjoy.   After the first shampoo the itching subsided a bit, but regularly I was still plagued with familiar weave behaviours!  – Tapping the itchy spots (instead of scratching)  and “scratching” with a rat tail comb lol.  Y’all weave wearers know exactly what I’m talking about!

It wasn’t all bad however.  I enjoyed the freedom of not having to do much to my hair – the so called get-up-and-go look.  Not having to worry about styling my hair the night prior, no detangling every morning etc.  I just woke up, combed with a wide toothed comb and that was it. I didn’t really have to do much with the weave it self.  It kept it’s shape for most of the week until wash day when I would wash, condition and flat iron it.

Sadly I did not enjoy my weave as much as I should have,  I took it out in about 5 weeks and that’s only because I couldn’t get to the salon during the 4th week.  At the end of the day, the discomfort from the tightness, the itching and the inconvenience of not having a clean scalp overpowered the “get-up-and-go” conveniences.

The third and final clue to this misadventure came after the weave was removed.  I experienced so much breakage that I had to have my hair cut not trimmed.  It was the first time I sat in a salon chair and struggled to hold back tears.  I’ve never cried because of my hair…never!  I’ve always seen hair as something that would grow back…despite the gravity of the situation.  For whatever reason though, that day the weave was removed was the first time I came close to crying because of the state of my hair.

I know now that weaves are NOT for me.  I strongly believe that I had an allergic reaction to the hair which resulted in the constant sometimes violent itching.  So no more weaves,  I need something that is less of a commitment – something that I can remove at the end of the day – a wig perhaps; braids are ok, but no more weaves, at least not when my memory is still intact.

Do you wear weaves?  Have you ever experienced a setback because of them?  Let us know your experiences.

Author: Vogue

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  1. I just yanked mine out after exactly one week! The itching was terrible. I’m sure i have scabs on my scalp coz my scalp was unusually tingly when i shampooed my hair. My sister reckons it was that bad because i did my cornrows with extensions,(the kind you use for braids) so i will try conrowing with my own hair, and hope that it will last for,well- another week!!! I’m just grateful that my scalp is breathing, i havent tied my hair back and quite frankly i don’t care..i just want airrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr in my scalp!!! I’ll do some damage control tomorrow.lol

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    • I also had a bad experience with weave. I had it installed exactly a week ago and actually just took it out. I tried putting up with the pain but couldn’t handle it anymore. The braids were extremely tight and my scalp was irritated. I tried oiling ,patting and even wetting my scalp. The pain was so intense that I tried numbing my scalp with ice. Nothing worked. When I examined my scalp it was red and inflamed. I don’t ever want a weave again after this experience. My scalp feel a little better now it’s out and I am glad I made the decision to take it out.

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      • Hello ladies, I had the same happen to me I had a bob sew in on a cap that was braided very very tight. I took pain pills and was told it would loosen up. A couple of days after the install, it began to itch terribly. After 1 week I washed which didn’t help much because if the cap. After 4 weeks I had a relative take it out. My head was filled with scabs and mounds of dandruff!! I wear my hair natural so i was soooo happy to get my wash-n- go routine back. Never again 🙂

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      • Did any of your hair come out? I’m experiencing the same issue of pain but I only had this sew in for 6 days. I took some of it out and the rest will be removed in a few hours when my friend can cut it out. Im just sooo scared that my hair is gonna come out

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    • Yea if synthetic braiding hair was used without pretreatment the coating will cause allergic reaction resulting in itching. I soak my hair in vinegar and hot water you will see white stuff float to the top of the water it’s the coating. I let it sit for several hours or so shampoo and rinse.

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  2. CHILE!!!! My first full-head weave, the stylist also put a cap on top of my braids. She ALSO braided synthetic hair in with my real hair due to my hair being short at the time.

    WOMP! The weave stayed in my hair all of 2 weeks. I tried oiling, I tried rinsing, shampooing, rat tailing, patting. I could not SLEEP!!!!! The slightest movement would send my scalp into a FRENZY. All of my friends just said, “It’s normal, but you’ll get used to it after the first week”. WRONG. It was a total nightmare. I kept telling myself exactly what you said….”You paid too much money for this d@#! hair….keep it in. Keep it in.” My hair said…..oh….O.K. DEN! and showed out.

    When I tell you I didn’t take it out, I CUT it out, piece my piece, I ain’t lyin. I didn’t even CARE about preserving the actual $200 hair that I had bought. It was a total nightmare.

    NEVER again will I get a weave put in. I’ll just have to go around looking crazy with a lace front. *kanyeshrug*

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    • I had the same problem for 5 years and I was told the same thing hair was breaded way tooooo tight. So I found someone who doesn’t bread tight (loose) and my weaves still in!!!!!

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      • Well I had my weave in my hair for about 3 weeks and I had to take it out because it was too heavy!! My neck would hurt with stiffness and I would get headaches. The Stylist did a beautiful, weave was not even tight.

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  3. I definitely can relate to everything that u gals said. I removed ma weave after just 8days coz I cldnt take it anymore. The itching drove me to madness! My scalp was tight and soar and itchy and I just cldnt take it anymore. What I also had in mind was that the weave was expensive and my man had paid lots of money for it and that made me try to bear the pain and discomfort dat I was going through. The defining moment came when ma boyfriend and I were making out and the weave started itching, and I just cldnt take it anymore! I quickly jumped out of bed, told him I was going crazy and I yanked it out. I cldnt find my pair of scissors so I used a kitchen knife to remove it. I just ddnt care at all! All I wanted was for my hair to breathe!!! Gosh! The things we go through as black women! Totally insane!!! I dnt know how other gals manage to cope with all dat drama going on inside their heads and outside. I’m never doing it again. My natural hair is my freedom!

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    • Good for you. One day I’ll try the natural tresses again…one day.

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      • Vogue – Your hair looks fabulous! What kind of hair did you use and who did it? Where?

        I have terrible itching too! I believe I’m allergic to the synthetic hair braided into my braids….hence why I’m up at 3am. :-(. Soooo much money down the drain. I had it put in simply to relieve my hair from the heat so it can grow. I’m in misery!

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  4. Hi girls! I don’t mean to be rude or ignorant so forgive me in advance if I say anything stupid!
    I want to get a full head weave and leave my real hair alone! I have dyed it so much and bleached it platinum. Now it’s is almost healthy and brunette again. I’m a white girl and I’ve had braids like this 7yrs ago: http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-WDTCQ-s6h-I/T-Q784dpOTI/AAAAAAAAAB8/wtMXHUyMrnw/s1600/micro-braids-hairstyles.jpg
    I could only manage two weeks with them cos I went camping for a week and it was so darn itchy even after washing, it made me crazy I took them all out! I really want gorgeous long hair as mine’s a short bob atm, but now I’m scared I’m gonna pull that *** right out if it gets itchy like all you say! :-/

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  5. I am wearing a full sewin in my 6th wk. I plan to have it redone in two weeks. My head only itches once in a while. I don’t have dandruff maybe that’s why, I don’t know. The first week I was annoyed from the tight was of the braids. A different girl other than my stylist braided it. My stylist didn’t sew the wefts tight at all. That was a relief. I wash once a week which is less than I wash my own hair when it’s out. Overall I am happy. Hope I’m still happy when I take it down. Hope my hair is still intact!!!

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  6. Oh my gosh! I am glad to know I’m not alone in my weave discomfort. First I suffered from the pain of my tight scalp. It was so bad I had to take tylenol. My first wash is coming soon because this itching is driving me CRAZY! I like all of you am trying to get my money’s worth, it has only been in for a week. OMG I am about to pat my brains out from the itching.

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  7. Your article explains the exact same thing I went through. I just removed my 2nd weave ever and I lost 40% of my hair from breakage. I was devastated. Since I am transitioning, I understand how the damaged relaxed hair just gave up and preferred the sink as opposed to my head but wow… I cried for the first time since I was a teenager and decided to do my own “highlights”.. we all know how that ended…
    SO now Im at the point where I have to make a decision. Stay this way with half natural and some ragged relaxed pieces hanging on for dear life? or put in another weave to grow it out some before the “big chop”? or relax it and chop it into a cute short style (which is my least favorite option)… Would love you to weigh in.. Im so confused and exhausted by the whole thing..

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    • Hi Shawn
      Sorry you had to experience that, i can empathize, it really is frustrating. I think you have to do what you’re most comfortable with and what will be best for your hair. Sounds like you’re planning to go natural so I’m not sure that I would recommend that you relax again because you will need to start growing it out from scratch again. If the relaxed ends are damaged you may need to get them trimmed to prevent further damage (e.g. Split ends moving further up the hair shaft).
      Your hair is speaking to you. Maybe weaves are not a good option for you as was my case. Some ladies get great progress from wearing a weave but others don’t as was the case for both of us. Have you considered braids? If you’re not comfortable with braids then I think you need to do some soul searching and decide whether it is a good time for you to big chop and start anew or to try to grow it out some more before you big chop. Whatever you decide, do it because it’s what YOU want to do and what YOU are comfortable with, not because of anything I or anyone else thinks. At the end of the day you have to walk around with your chosen style and you still want to feel good about it and yourself. Good luck!

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  8. there is a scalp sanitizing tool for weaves name the weaveeezzz,this will help the itch for when cleansing and treating the hair,as this product was designed to reach the difficult areas under the weave,check it out on you tube,including how it is used.

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    • Thanks!! Weeaveeez is the Best Yeah!!!

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  9. wow! I have never experienced extreme itching like that. I went natural and my hair is down my back ( I would say bra strap length) from putting in sew ins for two years. I haven’t even wore my natural hair because weaves have been so versatile and fun! I love that my hair continues to grow and its not damaged from heat! I have experienced tightness the first couple days with my sew ins but i grease my edges to loosen that up as fast as possible and always tell my hairdresser if i feel like she is sewing to tight. It’s about healthy hair not a flawless sew in! I would never add synthetic hair to my sew in because that puts more strain on the braid with that added hair on top of the tracks being sew in you should have enough hair point blank period. Besides that, synthetic hair can be itchy!
    Next about washing the sew in, I buy real human hair so I can wash it whenever i want to! I tend to co wash weave more so than use shampoo because it comes out softer and rejuvenated. My braid tend to soak up the conditioner and my hair loves it. I would advise that if you using a net to only keep the hair in for 6weeks lol without I give mines 8 weeks my hair tangles really easily so I like to keep my braids fresh! Hopefully you guys have better experiences. In my facebook link i am the girl with the curly hair lol

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  10. I could cry right at this very moment…I chose to have my hair cornrowed & weaved without a Cap and with less synthetic hair… I guess my hair was too fine and thin to take that type of risk (since Caps are used to protect the cornrows underneath the tracks) in the process of removing my weave I cut a cornrow in half … My hairdresser didn’t sew the ends of my cornrows together, therefore cutting 2 inches of a tail end of a braid…A COMPLETE DISASTER! “I’m trying to grow hair… I defeated the purpose of getting a Weave…Glad I didn’t let her weave my Crown bet I have a shiner too.”

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  11. Well I’m up at 1am atm because of the same itching problem.its my first time doing a full head weave and I’m ready to take it out cuz I barely slept the first three nights and resorted to painkillers because of how tight it was. Its the 8th day now and my only problem is the itching. Patting only does so much so I just used olive oil and its not as bad right now… I have thick hair actually but I did a weave to change my look for my graduation ball. I don’t think weave is for me.. It looks good but the discomfort is too much.

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  12. I just came from 3 months of Senegalese twist. This go round I decided to get a sew in because of the weight of my twist. I basically felt like I needed a break. At first it itched bearably and I to thought of taking it out!! $150 later I said to myself “self, Google it”.. Many people said tea tree oil and witch hazel, I didn’t have any of those. Instead I took some shampoo and conditioner placed it inside a spray bottle (just a little shampoo) allowed the water to just drench my scalp, then took my sulfur 8 grease and some water, mixed it together in a applicator bottle and applied it to my scalp. Afterwards, I took my blow dryer and dried my braids. I’m now a happy, itch free, sleeping through tonight girl..lol =) maybe this will help.

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  13. My sew ins don’t usually itch but this one I had installed a week ago does.My scalp and edges are flaking horribly. I atribute all this symptoms to my hair being bone dry! Until I get paid I’m stuck rubbing cocoa butter on my head.

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  14. I am catching pure hell now. I have a sew in with the cap and I don’t know if its the cap or hair that’s giving me the itchies. Its been almost 3 weeks and at night I’m digging in my scalp. I have washed it and everything. Nothing helps. Some say to rinse the hair when you buy it with water and vinegar but a Wig would be really nice right now so my scalp can breathe daily. Some brands of hair breaks my neck out if I sweat so I’m wondering if my scalp is allergic. I may have to give up sew ins and wear my Mimi fro or wigs. Just disgusted and itching.

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  15. There may be some factors that cause itching that are not so obvious here. That may be an allergic reaction to the hair, wefts and chemicals used on the hair.
    Did you know that for hair to be considered HUMAN HAIR it only has to be 3% human hair? Makes you wonder what is the other 97% you are wearing on your head! Right? So you really do not know what is next to your head/skin/scalp. Additionally if you are using glue STOP! Again, you do not know what chemicals you are using on your skin, whether it is properly applied or removed…the pictures are gross.
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  16. Wow! Im so glad to see other sisters have had the same experience as me. I too have had weaves before and cannot stand the discomfort from the itching. I have to wash my hair at least once a week and I am also prone to dandruff, so this weave I have with the net is not for me! Everyone can rock the hell out of weaves but to each his own. They are not for me. Thank God I have beautiful hair and when I want to change the length or texture, I’ll just throw on a wig. Weaves are too much of an uncomfortable long term commitment.

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  17. It’s the synthetic hair that’s braided into your hair, not the human hair. Happened to me. I used to glue in human hair tracks all the time, no issues. As soon as I got the sew in, I had to take it out. My scalp was itching like crazy, had sores and oozing spots in my head. If you get a sew in, do not let them add in synthetic hair when braiding your hair! That is where the allergy lies not with the human hair thats sewn in!!

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  18. I am in the same predicament most of you ladies are in as well. I am in the 9th day of my sew in and I am convinced later on in this day I am going to take this weave out. The itching has been torture, driving me insane. Sew ins are not for everybody. I love the way they look but me personally can’t bare this any longer. I don’t care how much I paid when I am uncomfortable. My scalp is so sore from scratching using everything. I will wear a wig lol. Tomorrow after work this is coming out. Ladies it doesn’t matter about the money your health and comfort is more important.

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  19. Omg my head is really working it ich so bad Like really bad at first it was so tight I had to take a pill now it iches so bad I think I might scratch right thru my head this is my 1st sew in i don’t like outing anything n my hair I wanted to try this never again will I cuz this is so annoying….y is it itching so bad I just wanna scream but; paid to much to remove

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  20. So last Friday I decided to get a sew in. When I was getting it braided it didnt feel tight at first. Then my head felt a little tight and I just thought it was because I hadnt had my hair braided in a while and that the girl had braided my hair into a beehive and I never had that before. Then my head started really hurting when she started sewin the hair in I told her and she loosened up. Then I told her again and we ran some cold water on my head to relieve it and it worked. Two days went by and my head was still hurting so on Sunday I decided to take the sew in down because it was so tight. As I started taking the braids down patches of my hair started coming out and now I have bald spots. My head was bleeding, oozing yellow liquid and numb and more hair kept falling out. I went to the doctor and dermatologist on Monday and the nurse said the tightness from the braids caused open wounds in my scalp and that I mightve had an allergic reaction to the products I put on the hair. The dermatologist prescribed me some meds but I found out I was allergic to them and was advised to stop taking them because they caused my face and neck to swell. I was wondering if you know of any pills that could help promote hair growth while my scalp heals? And do you know of any meds to help my scalp heal faster? Recently scabs have started to form and I wanted to know if I pick them will that prevent my hair from growing back?

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    • Do not pick scabs if will cause permanent hair loss , sea kelp tablets are good for hair growth as they are recommended after chemo to stimulate hair growth once scalp has healed use cold pressed virgin organic coconut oil on remaining hair to promote health and repair the shaft of the hair.
      good luck As a hair extensions I have seen this far to often from clients who come to me after getting bad hair weaves .

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  21. my crisis came from getting braids/cornrows. they lasted 2 days. the braids were not too tight, they felt fine. about day 2 my hair started itching pretty bad, by the time I went to bed my scalp was on FIRE, not like a little bit but itching so bad I wanted to just pull my scalp off. that day i had tried alot of the suggested remedies like washing the braids, oiling the scalp with coconut oil, tea tree oil, the whole nine…at midnight the night of day 2 i looked in the mirror and said to myself, who needs this sh@t. i cut those braids out in about 30 minutes. i wear my hair natural so I am use to washing my hair every 2 days or so and my scalp feels clean and free and never itches, so as much as i wanted a change in my “look” it wasn’t worth that and I don’t care about the $ I spent to braid I was done. I’m pretty sure I was allergic to the hair. I have the braids out three days and my scalp is STILL irritated and not back right like it was before the two days with these dang braids. It is getting better but I won’t be trying synthetic hair EVER again. that’s just my story…

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  22. and the thread. Its the fourth day and I woke up out my sleep at 1:30 am due to serve itching omg! I’m going crazy I want to snatch my head off… my edges are so red & im seeing red bumps. I’m trying to last til my bday which is a week away but Lord I can’t deal with this. Normally my sew ins never bother me but I tried a new stylist & NEVER again shes good but damn! Ive tried Tylenol & benadryl neither works… i.think I’m about to snatch this crap out I miss my scalp

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  23. Thank you for the Sisterhood Circle… Woooosaaaaahhh … I popped up around 3 am and cut the weave out in the moonlight… I apologized to my scalp and we are better after this… 48 hours after dropping some serious cash – I feel good though because there was a time I would have “suffered” for “beauty”… guess Im growing up after all and finally putting my body first 😉

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  24. We all know why our weave itch ( suffocation)
    During my weave period , I blow in cold air with my hand dryer into my scalp once in every two days (5min) or everyday if you got the time. This creates an illusion of air to my scalp
    With this method, I get minimal to zero itching.
    I also recommend this to my clients and they stand by it .

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  25. I am literally suffering with this weave in. I have not had one in since being natural for 3 years now. I love to switch things up, assuming this weave would really keep people guessing. And all they’re guessing is why is this girl punching herself in the scalp??! And for the cherry on top of the cake, I have a silk based closure on top, it drives me just as crazy. My baby hairs are constantly sticking out and not blending, my scalp feels like regular ants are having fun and right after i scratch, they turn into fire ants! The stray weave hairs that touch my face, make me feel like something is on me, and I probably appear insane to others. So after a grueling 3 weeks, the fro is not only coming back, but welcome with open arms. Might even through it a Afro-Theme welcome back party lol

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  26. So, I got my first sew in weave on saturday. Saturday evening it was tight and a little sore. Sunday … it itched but here and there. Today… again itched here and there. But for the last two nights, I’ve woken up at 3 a.m. with severe itching. I’ve never had dandruff before. I honestly don’t think I have a net on over my braids. I’m bi-racial with the spiral curly hair. I have human hair extensions in as well. I have wet my hair every day to style it. Maybe that’s it. I don’t know. But it has brought my relief during the day, I think. I was really trying to figure out what the itch was , cuz it would just happen out of nowhere and I really feel like it’s the short hair that pokes out at the base of the weft . I think it pokes my scalp when I’m laying on it at night which causes me to go into these scratching fits. My hair is very fair as it is, I sure hope when this hair comes down, I still have my hair underneath it in tact. I do think the girl braided it too tight.
    Dang…. that’s what I get for tryna do something different.

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  27. I just got a full sewn on weave and though it is very itchy, this is only the third day. I still expect it to itch for the rest of the week but get better the following. Going into a weave, you have to know what you will be up against. My mother has been wearing weaves for more than 6 years now. She made the mistake of using the synthetic hair that the salon used and went through a terrible experience. But she decided to try it again and used human hair to thread through so it would be easier on her scalp. Her stylist also suggested a special hair that my mother could use for at least a year, of course coming back and tightening it when it loosens up, but the hair is still going strong.

    I feel bad that you had a bad experience, but the weave experience is very extensive. What with the not washing your hair for weeks, or getting use to the itchiness for the first week or so and then the tightness. One must have a good stylist as well as buying hair that you are willing to pay good money for, because, from my mother’s and my experience, more expensive hair means a better buy (again my mother has had her hair for 6 months, and plans to use it until December and she payed $200 for it).

    Again I’m sorry you and the other ladies went through bad experiences, but maybe try a second time and be a little more mindful of what you’re going into. (GET A GOOD STYLIST TOO – MAKES THE WORLD. If you live in New Jersey we use the shop Weave Queens and the stylist Tasha)

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  28. I am new to this weave thing. My hair is thin in the top due to thyroid issues. So,I decided to try something different b/c I had gotten tired of looking at my thin hair. I can’t stand the wig(s) b/c I have a tiny head and the wigs didn’t fit right. To make a long story short, I think I am already regretting I tried this. It hasn’t been 24 hrs. yet. I sent the hairdresser a text and told her I may be returning tomorrow to have it taken it out. I don’t think I can do this.

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